Communication

The questions pops in my head how important is communication in marriage?

If it is key to building a strong marriage, then it is very difficult for this to happen. You would think both parties would want to be on the same page with things. But why does it seem that someone is always not cooperating? It takes time, for some folks who been married for the majority of there lives, they still dont have it all together. And for me and my husband, it seems we dont have it at all.

I am taking a marriage class at my church. And today the topic was on comunication. I thought it was very interesting. The previous topics were on submission and headship. Wives are to submit and husbands are to be the head of the house. I find it very difficult to grasp a clearer meaning of the word submit. I want to get it right and understand it so that I can practice it, but it just isnt clear cut to me. Some say it means to follow, to be the help meat, to work side by side with him. But the connotation of the word is negative of course. It can mean to some to obey, to keep quiet. But I don't think thats what it means. I am willing to submit if he is willing to lead the way. I want to be less independant if he will step up. I was convicted of this while sitting in class. My thoughts were, Lord, change me. I want to submit.

Back to communication. I believe we need better communication, not just in conflict, but at all times, esp to avoid conflict, because we all know that bad/no communication can lead to conflict. I want to be able to read him and understand him before I want understanding. I want to be selfless, so that I can listen to him and his needs. I want to communicate the things that I know he would enjoy, like dinner when he gets home, or a good action movie every now and then, or saving money. Those things can communicate to him that I care. I want better communication.

This class has brought me to tears because I realize how messed up I am as a wife and how I need to get it together. Its easy to see the fault in him, but the more I read passages in the Bible on Wives submitting, the more I am guilty of not. I think this is for me. So I am definatly challenged by this.